- CAMPUS LIFE
The phrase “ladies first” is typically used in reference to opening doors, waiting in lines, and lifeboats on the Titanic. However, I believe it should apply to more than to just chivalrous or traumatic situations. I’m talking about the basic idea of chicks before dicks (excuse the vulgarity ...)
Luckily for me, boys didn’t like me in middle school so I’ve always known how important having friends is. Although most of my best friends in middle school spent their time making fun of me via myspace or convincing me that I had made up my long distance boyfriend of six days (in their defense, I had only met him once … in the dark … from a distance). Regardless, those friendships turn out to be the ones that most positively contributed to me while I was growing up.
As we get older and continue to deal with the challenges that inevitably come with life, it becomes clearer who will be there when things aren’t happy and easy. Sometimes it takes punching a stone wall when you’re blackout drunk to realize how lame the men in your life are and how amazing the friendships you have truly are. Not that I’ve ever punched a wall … but if I did, I would say that your girl friends are the ones that really have your back (or your swollen hand.)
In my large amount of experience, it seems that my best friends are right about 100% of the time. The people who have been with you the longest and have your best interest in mind really do know what’s best for you.
This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t be able to make decisions or formulate feelings with the consent of your friends. If you like a guy that your friend thinks is too dorky, that’s not really a reason to end things. But if they have a bad feeling about the seemingly perfect guy you met on Match.com … run. And then immediately punish yourself for ever being on Match.com.
We want to blame Disney movies for our skewed perceptions of love and high expectations of romance. But we should really be blaming Disney for their inability to highlight the importance of friendships.
The crucial mistake that every Disney princess made was not having a best girl friend. A talking candlestick, a bunch of dwarves, and a singing crab can hardly suffice for the kind of lovin’ that comes with a real life human BFF. I mean, really? Your girls are the ones who you’re going to be crying about the princes with. They’re the ones that are going to be holding back Rapunzel’s hair when her dumb ass is too drunk.
Never underestimate the importance of the friends in your life. Relationships come and go, especially in college, but true friends are stuck putting up with you for the long haul. So I’m going to end with a quote from the greatest British artist since The Beatles, “If you wanna be my lover, you gotta get with my friends.” When life really gets rough, don’t call a man to cuddle with. Put on the Spice Girls and remember the people who will be there for you in the end.